A child needs a mother

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I just finished reading news about a 13-year old who hanged himself because he felt neglected and unloved by his own mother. This incident is just one of the many suicidal incidents we heard over the news or read on news paper. It is very alarming. :(

I become a mother at the age of 24. I am already working and people would think that I am at the peak of my career when I got pregnant. I got pregnant out of wedlock. I knew then that many people would criticize me, will question about my pregnancy and all. But I didn’t think about them. What I thought of was the interest of my baby to be. I thought about the baby’s future and how I would be able to give birth safely. I was lucky that Tata didn’t leave me. He supported me all the way and he was there when I gave birth. :)

I did not come from wealthy family. But God blessed me with a good job that I was able to support and provide enough for my daughter. Her father provide something for her, too especially when he has extra money. When Nonet is sick, I often get absent from work. Although she has my mother, mama still wanted me around when Nonet is sick. I remember one time, when I decided to go to work instead of staying at home, my mother and my sister rushed her to the hospital during the wee hours of the morning. Due to high fever and asthma, my daughter’s toes are turning violet already. My mother was so nervous, then. Since then, as much as possible, she wanted me to be around when our baby is sick.
I have been absent for two days now because Nonet has high fever. Gladly, she is not having any asthma attack. Otherwise, she would be confined at the hospital by now.

Since, I wanted to provide Nonet the best that I can give her, I have considered of working overseas. I believe that I would be able to earn thrice or even four times what I am getting now. But for some reasons, I am not able to own a passport. It’s not that my name is blacklisted or something, but every time I attempt to get a passport, something would happen which prevents me from getting one. Maybe, when my purpose of getting a passport is for travel and leisure only; maybe then I would be able to get one. :)

The news about the 13-year old boy hanging himself to death caught me because I am a mother. In the reports, the boy felt unloved and was longing so much for his mother. He needed maternal care and attention. He needed the love of his mother. He needed his mother.

His mother was away because she needs to work for her family. The child was a product of a broken family. If he had a father to take care of them and to provide for them, his mother wouldn’t need to work and be away from her children. But the mother didn’t have any choice. :(

I realized that in spite of the material things that a child receives from his or her parents; the most important gift that a child receives from his parents are still love and care.

Today, many parents are working and children are left under the care of their grandparents or nannies. I do not deny the fact that my daughter is also left under the care of my mother because I need to go to work to provide for her. Yet, I see to it that at least once or twice a month or whenever our budget allows, Nonet and I go on a date. I make a point to spend quality time with her at the mall. We eat at her favorite fast food. We play at amusement park. We go a little shopping. I buy her a toy, a book or new clothes. Sometimes, she requests for a movie disc. :)

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At home, when I am reading book, she also grabs her own book and she reads beside me. When she is tired of reading, she would ask me to read a story from her Children’s Bible. She loves that book so much. :) If I am being lazy reading or telling her story, I will just ask her to draw something. Sometimes, we play chess. You bet, she knows how to play chess. She even enjoys playing chess in computer. I don’t know how to play chess. She just teaches me how to move the pins. :P These are just few of the many things, that parents can do to spend quality time with their children. Things which will make their children feel loved and cared for.

I am aware that many parents need to do a lot of sacrifices leaving their children behind to work far away to provide for them, too. But the point is, our children needs love, care and attention above all material things.

Holy Family, bless the Filipino Families and all the families in the world! Amen.

Ciao! :)

Being a Mother

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It was in the 1994 Miss Universe Pageant when Miss India, Sushmita Sen won the said title. In the question and answer portion of the said pageant, she was asked with What is the essence of being a woman. What is the essence of being a woman? She answered, “”Just being a woman is God’s gift. The origin of a child is a mother, a woman. She shows a man what sharing, caring, and loving is all about. That is the essence of a woman”… The origin of a child is a mother. A mother is a woman.. :)

Last Sunday, May 8, we remember the woman who carried us in her womb for nine months; the one who takes care of us; the one who taught us how to walk; our first best friend; our first teacher; our first lawyer and many other things.. our mother. :)

We celebrated Mother’s Day without mama at home because she was still in Antique. We just called her and greeted a Happy Mother’s Day. :) I also sent a text message to my Tito Lino and asked him to do me a favor by greeting my maternal grandmother, Lola Sayong and her sisters a happy mom’s day, too. I received many test messages as well from friends and cousins greeting me a Happy Mother’s Day. :)

I was greeted too by my own daughter with a warm embrace and a kiss. It was a great feeling! I have been a mother for 6 years now (and counting) and I would say that it’s a tough job but a fulfilling one. Many of you may agree that it is easy to become a mother but it is difficult to be called one.

When you bear a child and gave birth to him, you are a mother. But, the responsibility of being a mother and becoming a mother may be easier said than one. I am lucky to have a mother as caring, as kind, as understanding and as loving as my mother. She may not have a college degree and was not born to a rich family, but she was able to fulfill and continue to fulfill her duty as a mother to my sisters and me, and also to my baby. I salute her. :)

My mother has sacrificed a lot of things for us. I remember her selling bath soaps in the market early in the morning, so when she got home, we have food to eat, and we have money to go to school. Up until today, even if we are all grown ups, she is still there to take care of us. When my mother arrived from Antique, she told us that her mother decided to stay with her eldest son. My mom’s eldest brother is sick and my grand mother (who is 82 years old already), wanted to be with her sick son. I believe that being a mother doesn’t have any expiration date. Once you become a mother, you will be one for the rest of your life. :)

I believe that I have been a good mother so far to my daughter. I may not always beside her because I need to go to work, but I see to it that I attend to all her needs, not only financially but emotionally as well. I never forget to say I love you to my little girl everyday. :)

I know that my “motherhood” is just starting and I have a long way to go. I may have fears inside me that I may not be able to provide enough for my daughter, but I have my mother and her life as one to inspire me. :)

Ciao! :)

Antoinette is the Sunshine of My Life

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I am working on my blog this early this morning when my daughter greeted me a, good morning! She is used to getting up early because her class is at 10Am and she loves watching Sponge Bob Square Pants and Dora the Explorer on channel 2. Since she woke up early than Dora and Sponge’s time slot, she asked me to carry her first and sang for her.

My computer is playing, “You are the Sunshine of My Life” by Stevie Wonder. As I sang the song to her, she fell asleep again. :)

Having a baby really turned my world around. My daughter has been my inspiration and strength. She has always been the sunshine during the low moments of life.

I thank the Lord for the wonderful gift He gave me.

Ciao! :)

A Mom Like Mine :)

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We always hear that being a mother is one of the most fulfilling profession one can ever had. It a tough one though but we always wanted our children to be proud of us. I must admit that I am very lucky to have a mother like my mom. I have witnessed all her hard work and sacrifices for us. I remember when my father lingered somewhere someplace, :P , it is my mother who have been a provider for us. Oh we really had a hard time then. Thanks to God for the dear angels He sent to help us. God bless them. :)

When I learned that I was pregnant, I couldn’t tell my mother about it. I know she’ll be very upset. Not because I haven’t finish school yet but the complexity of ney’s and I relationship. In fact, I am the bread winner of the family when I got pregnant. It was so hard keeping my pregnancy from her. I knew that my mother knows her daughter very well. She noticed that I was not wearing any tight jeans anymore and that I often wear slacks or low-waist pants. She also found the garlic garland I hanged on my window. Hahaha!!! Oh yeah, I was very scared of aswang then. :P

We didn’t speak to each other for a week after I told her about my pregnancy. She even commented before that she will never take care of my baby.

Everything changed when I showed her my first ultrasound. Since then, she was the one who accompanied me in my check ups especially when ney is not around. When I gave birth, I cried when I saw her. She told me not to cry anymore and that I did a good job. :)

To be honest, she was the one and she is the one who continually raise my daughter. She even told us that she loved Antoinette more than us, her own daughters. Hahaha! My sisters love my baby so much as well. I am lucky because, I have her to look after my daughter while I am working. I know that my baby is in good hands. She never gets tired of my daughter. She’s very patient in teaching her lessons while I am very fond of buying Antoinette books. :)

Even if she’s in her late 50′s already, she still do the laundry for us and cook for us. My mother is a best cook. Well, you can tell by our sizes! Hehehe! :D

I know that I can never be like her. I am not sure if I can. My daughter is very lucky to have her as her granny. She practically takes good care of us. I am very grateful to God for giving her to us as our mother. It is really amazing how she manage raising not 3 but 4 daughters! :)

I just wanted to share you how blessed I am to have her. I always pray to God to bless her with good health and longer life. I just don’t know how we will be without her. Even if I have I am a mother now, I still depend on her. And I love her so much.

I know that sometimes, we often take our mothers for granted. But, let us remember that we can have many children, we can have many lovers, but we can only have one mother. And as early as now, let them feel how much you love them and be mindful of saying, “Thanks for everything Mom! I love you.” That would definitely makes her happy. :)

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Ciao! :)

New Baby is Coming

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I, Daisy and Ime were very happy when we learned that our dear friend Pinky is going to have a baby! :) It is true what they say about babies being the bundle of joy to every family. We haven’t seen Pinky for a long time and she said that she is due on the 3rd week of January.  Well, it would be very soon!!! We are planning to visit her one of this days and I bet that Pinky got already some modern furniture for her baby. :)

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I remember when I learned that I was carrying a baby. It was mixed emotions, then! :) I was happy and excited to have a baby, but scared that I may not be able to be a good mother. Well, my mother played a big role to what I become. I may say that so far, I have been a good mother to my little girl. :)

We are still yet to set a date as to when we will pay her a visit. I am really excited to see her. She said that she really gained weight. :)

I just hope and pray that Pinky would have a safe delivery and that she would deliver a healthy baby. God bless them! :) We’ll see her soon.

Ciao! :)

A Date with Mom

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My mother celebrated her 56th birthday last October 6. As a birthday present, she asked for a pair of sandals. I told her to prepare herself and we’ll go to the mall. Well, this happened about 2 Saturdays ago. Since it was my off from work, I decided to take her to the mall. It was the right timing, too because, I just received then my salary.

She was able to pick a nice pair of sandals. I also bought my daughter and my youngest sister a pair of slippers. After paying to the cashier, my mother told me if we could go to home center of the mall. We went to the lower ground of the mall, and she looked at different Christmas decors available already. She loves the color green very much and she admired one of the white Christmas trees on display with green accents and decors. :)

She picked two sets of Christmas lights and headed to the counter. Then, we continue strolling around the mall and I bought some thread for my cross-stitch projects and of course, new books. :)

We ate at Aunt Anne Pretzels, for a change. On our way home my mother told me that in spite of many hardships in life and in spite of  being very hardheaded at times, she said that I am still blessed and more fortunate than many people are. I know where my mother comment is going. Recently, I learned that my father’s sister used my money to pay for her niece debt. She told me that my cousin would be in big trouble if she would not help her. I was really mad because I am earning it for my daughter’s schooling. It made me more upset that after my aunt paid my cousin’s loan, my cousin would not do anything to pay that money back. I was forced to text them and really made them feel that I am angry. Then my aunt told me that they have no means to pay my money back, besides, I will still be able to earn it back. Oh, I really felt bad about it. :(

Then my mother told me to just forget about it. It was just money. It may cost a lot but there are a lot of money out there. Besides, I am truly blessed and all I need to do is to count my blessings to make me feel better.

She’s right. In spite of all my shortcomings and sins, God continues to bless me and my family. Well, my date with my mother was very enjoyable and meaningful. :) My mother is really one of a kind, she’s one of the best mothers in the world.

Ciao! :)

Happy Birthday Mama!

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Today, a very special person in my life is celebrating her birthday. Happy birthday Mama. My mother is a very kind, patient, understanding, forgiving and dear mother to us. She is not a college diploma holder, but she holds the highest profession in the land…being a mother.

She has been there through all my joys and pains. I know she was hurt when I was hurt. If only she could take the pain away from my heart then she would. She is our strength through all life’s challenges. Even if I am a mother now, she continue to be loving mother not only to me but to my baby as well. :)

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Mama and Antoinette

Well, as I work on my blog, I know that she is preparing our food for lunch. My sister bought her a cake. Hmmm, I don’t have a special gift for her because I always give her presents even if it’s not her birthday. Well, she asked me to replace our water faucet with something like Kohler faucet. :) I told her that when we build our own house then probably we can have one of those branded faucets. She said that it will be much enjoyable to work on the sink with those kinds of brands. Hehehe!!! :)

Anyway, as she celerates her birthday today, I pray to God that she will be blessed with good health and long life. That God would always keep her from harm. Because, we really cannot afford to lose her.

We love you very much, Ma! :)

Ciao! :)

Prayers and Promises for Mothers

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Yesterday I went to Roinsons Galleria to deposit my payment through BDO. Since, I am there already, I cant help myself from going to one Bestsellers which is located on the 4th floor of the mall. It is where I bought most of my books. As I checked on those which are on sale, I found a very interesting book. It is aout prayers and promises for mothers by Rachel Quillin and Nancy J. Farrier. I scan through its pages and I fell inlove with it. It has Bible passages and prayers specifically written for mothers who are struggling through different difficulties.

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Well, as a mother I have many things to surrender to God. Being a mother is the most priceless profession ever. You need to be many persons rolled into one.

I’d like to share one of the passages in there about children. I am very grateful to God for giving me such a wonderful daughter. I know that all the mothers out there, would share the same feeling as I do. :)

CHERISHING CHILDREN

“We were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children.” 1 Thessalonians 2:7

As I sit here watching my little ones quietly and happily playing with their toys, my heart sings with the love I have for them. I want to pick them up and draw them close. When they’re tearing through the house at breakneck speed, I still love them, but catching them for a hug would be difficult. Being gentle when they break something in their haste is also easier said than done.

Father, You have me my children to cherish, and that includes being gentle with them. I do treasure them, Lord, so help me to impart Your gentleness to them. Help me draw them close when that’s needed and to become involved in their play when that would be better. Mold me into the mother they need.

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Ciao! :)

Welcome Baby Danielle!

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Well, she’s my bestfriend’s youngest child. She was born through C-section last July 1, 2009. I just can’t help posting her picture with her kuya David because I am really happy to see her. Imagine, she’s 7.9 punds! :) I told her mother Daisy that she looks more than a month old already, yet she’s only 1 week old today! :)

Tita Anette (and hopefully with ate Antoinette and Tito Tata) will visit you and mommy soon. So, hope to see you then. Be a good girl to mommy and daddy. Kuya David, be a loving and caring kuya, okay.

Rhaine Danielle and Ron David

Daisy, her mother, is not only my bestfriend but a dear sister, too. Hope to see you soon. :)

Ciao! :)

Mom Again

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I received a text message yesterday from my best friend Daisy and she told me that she gave birth to a bouncing baby girl through C-Section. She is really a bouncing baby girl for she weighs 7.9 pounds! :)

Well, congratulation bes and I will visit you soon with your relyenong bangus!!! :)

Ciao! :)

I’m glad she’s happy!

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My mother and I were talking the other day. She shared the things that they did in the last leadership training seminar she attended. She is one of the parent volunteers in St. Vincent Foundation where my youngest sister is a beneficiary.

One of the activities in they had in the seminar was to share with their fellow trainees, about the incident that makes them sad and happy. She said that, she shared them that she was really sad when my father died 2 years ago. My father wasn’t a perfect husband and as the eldest daughter I can say that there marriage wasn’t perfect, like many other marriages. But then, inspite of it all, my mother’s love for my father was unconditional.

She then shared that even though my father’s gone, she’s happy right now for what we (her children) have achieved and yet to achieve. I was able to finish college through the help of many “angels” that God sent me. Through my own hardships and perseverance as well. And ofcourse, through my mother’s hardwork, too. There was a time in our life, when my mother sells bath soap in the market. The soap are over runs from the factory she’s working for. Her boss allowed them to bring home those overruns instead of throwing away. What we did then was to re-pack 3 pieces of soap in a plastic, then my mother will sell it the following day in the market.

When she comes home, we already have food for the day. She remember those times when we were really down. But God has always been good to us. The hardships that we’ve been through made us stronger and closer to God. 

My younger sister has finish college as well and is now working as a Recruitment Specialist. Our youngest sister will be in her second year as a Broadcast Communication student in PUP. 

My mother is a very simple woman who is not hard to please. Today, she enjoy going to the market when we buy food. She enjoy going to the grocery store and get the things we need for daily use. She said that though we’re not rich, our life is better than we used to have. And she is really happy. :)

I told her that she deserves to have a happy, comfortable and convenient life. She has always been the best mother. Very affectionate, loving, caring and very patient. Hope I could be like her. I told her that I know that I have disappointed her for some decisions I made in my life, but she never left me. Her love for us is unconditional.

I told her that, I will give her the kind of life that she deserves. I told her that I also promised my father on his death bed that I will take care of our family, so he has nothing to worry about.

I told my mother that I am working hard not only for my daughter’s future but also for her and for the rest of the family. I even said that who knows, in the future we can do some tour, like Argentina travel. :)

I can never thank her enough for all the great things she’s doing for us. I always been grateful to God for giving me the best mother like my mother. :)

Ciao! :)

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A Mother Again

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Motherhood is said to be the most fulfilling experience a woman can ever have in her life. I would like to take sometime to congratulate my best friend Daisy who is expecting her second baby. It’s been 3 years since she gave birth to first child, David. In fact, we gave birth on the same year. It’s just that her son is like 4 months older than my daughter.

I still remember the moment she broke the news to us that she’s pregnant. I remember our other two best buddies; Pinky and Ime told us that, Daisy and I are really best friends. I got pregnant when she was 5 months pregnant. :)

She celebrated her birthday last November 20. She learned that she is again expecting a baby, just few days before her birthday. I told her that it is a wonderful birthday gift.

Well, what else could I say, congratulations bes! :) Take good care of yourself and your baby. I hope it will be a baby girl. Always be happy and free yourself from all worries. Mama and I will cook Relyenong Bangus for you. :)

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