A Father’s Day Memoir

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On the same day that the Philippines remembers the 150th birthday of her national hero, Dr. Jose P. Rizal, the world celebrates Father’s Day.

Father’s Day is celebrated every 3rd Sunday of June.

The last time that I was able to greet my father; Happy Father’s Day, was in 2006. He passed away in January of 2007 because of multiple organ malfunctions due to stage 4 lymphoma.

My father wasn’t a perfect father, but I know that he loved us. Maybe he was just human and had been too weak to fight and resist all the temptation around him.

He was a sweet father. He wasn’t a strict father. We can crack joke at him and laugh with him. He loved to sing and to read books. Maybe we got those traits from him. My sisters and I love to sing and to read books as well.

He was good cook, too. I loved his “ginataang tulingan” so much. But, he loved my mother’s version of pancit bihon. Well, we all love it. :)

During his last few days on earth, I remembered him being very hard headed. I remember fighting with him about two days before he died. The last time that I was able to talk to him was when he asked me to give him some dollars. The last words that I told him before he left us was, I love him and if he needs to go, then he should go. That he shouldn’t worry about my mother and my sisters for I would take care of them.

It has been four years since my father died. We seldom visit his remains in the cemetery but we do not forget to pray for his soul.

He may not be the perfect and the greatest father, but he loved us. He also loved my daughter.

Papa, I believe that you’re with God now. I believe that you can hear my heart from where you are. I just want to say, that you will always be loved and missed.

Happy Father’s Day!

Ciao! :)

Being a Mother

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It was in the 1994 Miss Universe Pageant when Miss India, Sushmita Sen won the said title. In the question and answer portion of the said pageant, she was asked with What is the essence of being a woman. What is the essence of being a woman? She answered, “”Just being a woman is God’s gift. The origin of a child is a mother, a woman. She shows a man what sharing, caring, and loving is all about. That is the essence of a woman”… The origin of a child is a mother. A mother is a woman.. :)

Last Sunday, May 8, we remember the woman who carried us in her womb for nine months; the one who takes care of us; the one who taught us how to walk; our first best friend; our first teacher; our first lawyer and many other things.. our mother. :)

We celebrated Mother’s Day without mama at home because she was still in Antique. We just called her and greeted a Happy Mother’s Day. :) I also sent a text message to my Tito Lino and asked him to do me a favor by greeting my maternal grandmother, Lola Sayong and her sisters a happy mom’s day, too. I received many test messages as well from friends and cousins greeting me a Happy Mother’s Day. :)

I was greeted too by my own daughter with a warm embrace and a kiss. It was a great feeling! I have been a mother for 6 years now (and counting) and I would say that it’s a tough job but a fulfilling one. Many of you may agree that it is easy to become a mother but it is difficult to be called one.

When you bear a child and gave birth to him, you are a mother. But, the responsibility of being a mother and becoming a mother may be easier said than one. I am lucky to have a mother as caring, as kind, as understanding and as loving as my mother. She may not have a college degree and was not born to a rich family, but she was able to fulfill and continue to fulfill her duty as a mother to my sisters and me, and also to my baby. I salute her. :)

My mother has sacrificed a lot of things for us. I remember her selling bath soaps in the market early in the morning, so when she got home, we have food to eat, and we have money to go to school. Up until today, even if we are all grown ups, she is still there to take care of us. When my mother arrived from Antique, she told us that her mother decided to stay with her eldest son. My mom’s eldest brother is sick and my grand mother (who is 82 years old already), wanted to be with her sick son. I believe that being a mother doesn’t have any expiration date. Once you become a mother, you will be one for the rest of your life. :)

I believe that I have been a good mother so far to my daughter. I may not always beside her because I need to go to work, but I see to it that I attend to all her needs, not only financially but emotionally as well. I never forget to say I love you to my little girl everyday. :)

I know that my “motherhood” is just starting and I have a long way to go. I may have fears inside me that I may not be able to provide enough for my daughter, but I have my mother and her life as one to inspire me. :)

Ciao! :)

Mama @ 57!

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Last October 6, my mother celebrated her 57th birthday. Three more years and she’ll be able to enjoy the 20% discount offered to Senior citizens! Hehehe!

We didn’t have enough budget to throw a big party for her. We just have extra food on our table plus ice cream and cake. We ate and enjoy her birthday by singing in our videoke. :)

Mama is the only parent we have. Sometimes, she become hard headed and always make her own way instead of what is asked of her to do. You bet! Her way is always better! :)

I always pray to God to bless her with good health and long life. Long enough for us to give her a convenient and comfortable life. Long enough for her to enjoy playing not only with Nonet but with her future grand children. :)

God bless her! Love you mama.

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Ciao! :)

A Mom Like Mine :)

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We always hear that being a mother is one of the most fulfilling profession one can ever had. It a tough one though but we always wanted our children to be proud of us. I must admit that I am very lucky to have a mother like my mom. I have witnessed all her hard work and sacrifices for us. I remember when my father lingered somewhere someplace, :P , it is my mother who have been a provider for us. Oh we really had a hard time then. Thanks to God for the dear angels He sent to help us. God bless them. :)

When I learned that I was pregnant, I couldn’t tell my mother about it. I know she’ll be very upset. Not because I haven’t finish school yet but the complexity of ney’s and I relationship. In fact, I am the bread winner of the family when I got pregnant. It was so hard keeping my pregnancy from her. I knew that my mother knows her daughter very well. She noticed that I was not wearing any tight jeans anymore and that I often wear slacks or low-waist pants. She also found the garlic garland I hanged on my window. Hahaha!!! Oh yeah, I was very scared of aswang then. :P

We didn’t speak to each other for a week after I told her about my pregnancy. She even commented before that she will never take care of my baby.

Everything changed when I showed her my first ultrasound. Since then, she was the one who accompanied me in my check ups especially when ney is not around. When I gave birth, I cried when I saw her. She told me not to cry anymore and that I did a good job. :)

To be honest, she was the one and she is the one who continually raise my daughter. She even told us that she loved Antoinette more than us, her own daughters. Hahaha! My sisters love my baby so much as well. I am lucky because, I have her to look after my daughter while I am working. I know that my baby is in good hands. She never gets tired of my daughter. She’s very patient in teaching her lessons while I am very fond of buying Antoinette books. :)

Even if she’s in her late 50′s already, she still do the laundry for us and cook for us. My mother is a best cook. Well, you can tell by our sizes! Hehehe! :D

I know that I can never be like her. I am not sure if I can. My daughter is very lucky to have her as her granny. She practically takes good care of us. I am very grateful to God for giving her to us as our mother. It is really amazing how she manage raising not 3 but 4 daughters! :)

I just wanted to share you how blessed I am to have her. I always pray to God to bless her with good health and longer life. I just don’t know how we will be without her. Even if I have I am a mother now, I still depend on her. And I love her so much.

I know that sometimes, we often take our mothers for granted. But, let us remember that we can have many children, we can have many lovers, but we can only have one mother. And as early as now, let them feel how much you love them and be mindful of saying, “Thanks for everything Mom! I love you.” That would definitely makes her happy. :)

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Ciao! :)

Happy Birthday Mama!

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I just like to take a break from my usual stories to greet a wonderful, patient, thoughtful, loving and caring mother in the whole universe! :)

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Mama..

 

I love you and thank you for everything..

Priceless Moments

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I’m about to do my usual assignments last night. I was able to have a good sleep in the afternoon so I can sleep a little later than usual. I’m supposed to write about Philippines’ outstanding tourist spots.

Guess what? I wasn’t able to do anything! Nonet is pulling me to bed. She wanted us to sleep and played with our blanket! I told her to go to bed, finish her milk and sleep. Told her that mommy will do something but she keeps on playing around and never stop on asking me to go with her to bed.

I know she’s very sleepy but we still managed to play hide and seek with our blanket. We tickled each other and she was laughing and giggling. Somehow, she misses me a lot.

Then I held her in my arms and I asked her to close her eyes and sleep. I hummed some songs and then my mother told me that Nonet is already sleeping.

Well, even if I wasn’t able to do what I’m supposed to do, the time we spent together, her laughter and the happiness we shared is priceless. :)

singing the motherhood in me..

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…I gave birth to a healthy baby girl on October 28, 2005..at the age of 24, I thought that was too early to have a baby, for having a baby takes a big responsibility as well..

…at around 4AM of that day, I went to the john to pee..I thought it was just call of nature.. I never realized that later that day I’m about to be a mother..

..my mom told me that it was my already the so called “water bag”.. I woke up my fiancé and told him that it’s time to go to the hospital.. being an tech support in me, I helped my neighbor to fix her printer before going to the hospital..

…I wasn’t nervous though.. while me and my honey were on our way to the hospital, I was just laughing and talking.. I remembered him being nervous than me.. Well, the good Lord and Mama Mary, my guardian angel, the prayers of my family, the prayers of my patront saints made me strong and relax during that day..

…often, people would say that when a woman is giving birth, her life is at stake as well.. true though.. and this is not to scare you.. true because, the process of giving birth, the labor pain.. the blood that you’re about to lose..everything.. that’s why, I know a lot of prayers do work..

…Labor pains? Oh my! I can’t explain how painful it was! I was at the labor room and I was shouting at the nurses.. I remembered asking them, “Akala ko ba painless!”… Hehehe!!! the normal delivery was painless for I had general anesthesia.. but the labor pain was not! I had my labor for almost 10 hours!

… at around 5:55 PM of October 28. 2005 I gave birth to a very loveable baby, Antoinette Ylea Jesuita Amandy-Labrador.. she’s 6.2 Lbs.. her looks are more of his father…

… the first time I saw her from the delivery room, I thought I saw her with almond shape head.. and I told myself, why does her head look like that… well, maybe that was a side effect of anesthesia… hehehe!!!

…when I saw my mom after I gave birth, I cried.. I don’t know… maybe because, I had experienced the same pain she had gone through when she gave birth to me.. and I remembered all my wrong doings.. that threatens me?!? Not really..

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