A Girl’s Notebook :)

Today is honey’s birthday. He is 32 already! Oh, he is really getting old.  Part of the my plan to have a productive restday is to spend a day or two with honey. I will be going to Lucena later this afternoon and we’ll meet there. We will just stay in one of the resorts or inns in Lucena.

Actually, he wanted to spend his birthday here with me and Nonet,  but due to work call, he cannot. So, I will be the one to go to his place instead. Well, for me it’s a good idea that I will be the one to go to Lucena because I also want to free myself for a while, from Manila’s busy and fast pace life. I wanted to breath some fresh air and hopefully, ney and I will be able to do our bonding moments like we used to.

Hopefully, we’ll find time to go swimming at Graceland Resort in Tayabas, Quezon. His family is a member in there and has the priviledge to use their very fine facilities. I’d been there twice already. You bet, the pools could have very good spa filters because it is really clean! You wouldn’t even notice nor smell the chlorine.

Well, I should be preparing now. I’ll tell my Lucena adventure when I get back.

Ciao!

Today is my off so I didn’t go to sleep right away after work. I wasn’t sleepy anyway and I want my restday to be productive. Last Saturday, I wasn’t able to do the things I wanted because I slept the whole day!

Last night, I was able to open my Friendster account during lunch time. I have a message from one of my closest friends in college. She asked for my number so that she can call me. I replied to her message and gave our home phone number (which was just activated recently) and provided her also my cp number.  I told her that the best time to call me is either Saturday or Sunday since I will be on off then.

This morning, while I am watching Charmed through DVD, our phone rang and I answered it. I thought it was just my cousin Anne, who often call us to talk to my daughter but it wasn’t her. I was really surprised when I learned that my caller is actually calling overseas!

Romy Rose was a college classmate and is one of my dearest friends. Like Daisy, Ime and Pinky, she knows me inside and out. We have lost contact since 2002. I tried to look for her through friendster then but failed. Then just a couple of weeks ago, I found her husband’s name Letlet in the social networking site. Well, I thought the account is her husband’s but it is actually hers. I left a comment there and we started exchanging messages.

Then, this morning she called up and believe me we talked for almost an hour and a half! Oh yeah, you bet her phone bill will be that much! Anyway, we really had a lot of things to share. It’s been 7 years since we last see and spoke to each other. She has 2 kids and happily married. I am happy for her. She asked for our dear friends, (who else my beautiful barkadas!) and other college classmates. 

I know that an hour and a half is not enough for all the things that we’d like to share with each other but I know that it will not be the last. Besides, she needs to send her babies to sleep. It was 11PM her time then.

Well, I truly miss her and I was really happy to talk to her again! 

Ciao! :) 

I am not if I have posted this article in this blog already. Nevertheless, here it goes..

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WHAT MATTERS MOST

All relationships are put to the fire. There is no such thing as a constantly happy couple. There is no
such thing as a constantly happy relationship. All of us, at one point in our affairs will have to go
through a cleansing process which, hopefully, will make us better persons.

Let us always remember that our relationships are put to the test to make stronger and better persons out of us. Second to love, the next most important ingredient of a successful relationship is communication. Many would agree that there are certain things in a relationship that are better kept unsaid. But I don’t believe in that. The moment we lie about our feelings or the wrong that we have done, we begin to build a wall of bricks around ourselves. Everytime we hide something out of fear, we add a brick to that wall. Soon we will be total strangers to the very people we vowed to be with the rest of our lives. We will start to hurt inside until we can no longer bear the pain. Until we regretfully give up the very relationships that we wanted to keep.

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. If we cannot bravely express our innermost fears,
doubts, and insecurities to the people we love then our ties are doomed to fail sooner or later. I would
rather be hurt by a person who is honest than be hurt in by someone who betrayed my trust. Many couples suffer in silence because they are afraid that opening up would just make things worst. They keep their feelings to themselves until their affection towards each other diminishes to the point where separation becomes inevitable. Remember, there is no burden so heavy that it cannot be lightened by an open, honest and peaceful exchange of thoughts and feelings. Fights are inevitable.
Oftentimes, we hurt those we love because we insist on protecting our own feelings. Selfishness is a
poison that recklessly kills relationships. It is only when we set aside our pride, arrogance and anger
that we are able to deal with raging emotions sensibly and peacefully. There would be a lot of times when we would be tempted to think only of the things that would make us happy. Most of the time, the happiness we get from satisfying our own want is happiness that we deprive others of. Our joy is their pain and our rise is their fall.

Some relationships survived one of the most difficult trials. They owe it to God who has watched over them all throughout the most trying times of their lives. They understood because they listened to what each of them were trying to say. They realized what was going on because they talked about their feelings. They hurt each other badly because they both became selfish. But the pain felt was washed away by the fact that love, among all the feelings that they shared, still remained the strongest pillar with which they have built their relationship upon. Indeed, beautiful things will always be built of the foundations of pain. We are strengthened by adversity and seasoned by trials in our relationships. It is not how much pain we feel that matters. What matters is that we are able find a space in our hearts to forgive those who have hurt us. It is not how hard we have stumbled that matters. What matters is that we muster enough courage to stand on our feet and try again. It
doesn’t matter if we have found love and lost it. What matters more is the joy that feeling brought us. What matters most is that we loved at all.

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Ciao!